Mustering up the strength and courage to leave a life of addiction behind is a tremendous accomplishment for anyone wanting to get sober. Rehab and treatment centers are meant to be a haven of support and guidance for building a healthy lifestyle. When you find the program that’s right for you and your goals, recovery is possible. You will build relationships and make connections with others who hold similar aspirations, and they will likely be the foundation of your support and community. Although many people you encounter in your treatment program will be like-minded and beneficial to your recovery, some may hinder your potential.
In every aspect of life, you will encounter those whose persona and mission don’t align with your own, and this can have a direct negative impact. Early stages of recovery are an especially vulnerable time where you are more susceptible to triggers, manipulation, and negative influence. Now more than ever it is crucial to choose your friendships wisely and surround yourself only with positive influences. If you want to get the most out of your treatment program and set yourself up for a successful recovery, avoid these kinds of people who will likely hinder your progress.
Staying positive is a personal journey, but if you are constantly surrounded by negativity it can be hard to manage the right mindset. The downer, or chronic pessimist, is the kind of person who refuses to see the bright side of anything. Sometimes this is the person who is always sad, never feeling well, or bothered by very small things. Other times it’s the kind of person who twists situations into adverse portrayals. Any situation can be turned dark with a negative mindset, and surrounding yourself with those who tend to do this may turn you on to similar thinking habits. Recovery is about celebrating the little accomplishments that turn into big ones. Spending too much time with people who bring you or themselves down will without a doubt hurt your progress. If there’s a bump in the road, which there will be, your outlook will be the deciding factor of the outcome. Choose to spend your time with peers that uplift you, support you when you’re struggling, and genuinely care about your success in addiction recovery.
Overcoming addiction is a battle and one you should be proud to accomplish. Sharing stories and life experiences with addiction in rehab is normal, healthy, and even recommended. However, we all know the kinds of people who tend to exaggerate their stories to make them seem stronger, tougher, and better than anyone else. If you’ve been through something, they went it through it worse. If you reached a goal, they reached it faster. If you used to get high, they got higher. Typically these behaviors are the result of an underlying insecurity, but when exposed to them during your recovery it can have you feeling inferior. The only bully you should be battling in rehab is addiction, and the “Warrior” type of friend can be a troublesome addition. Their war stories from when they were using will glorify getting high, partying, and participating in destructive behavior. Rehab is where you should be learning to leave that life behind because of the harm it caused, and the experience is different for everyone. Conversing with “Warrior” types is fine, but keeping them at arm’s length will benefit you long term during treatment.
Everybody lies now and again, everyone. Yet, there’s a difference between saying you’re fine when you really aren’t and giving flat out false information. Lying becomes a major habit during addiction, and rehabilitation should focus on the importance of honesty. If someone is constantly lying, they aren’t truly dedicated to getting sober. You should be surrounding yourself with people who have qualities you admire, so it’s a good idea to steer clear of those who can’t seem to keep a story straight or clearly aren’t telling you the truth. It’s not always easy to spot a liar, but if you have a gut feeling that someone in your treatment center is deceitful, trust your intuition and leave them out of your close group of friends.
The Know It All
Being open minded while getting sober is vital. Think about it- you’re leaving an entire lifestyle behind that most likely had you wrapped up in your own head for however long you were using. Now, especially if it’s your first time getting sober, you have to trust a process and a journey that you are foreign too. If you go through this process thinking others don’t know what they’re talking about, you’re never going to learn from them. If you surround yourself with people who think they know more than everyone else, you’re going to pick up on that mindset. These people will likely shoot down the advice and methods of professional and try to convince you that they know better. They don’t. So instead, befriend those who are willing to learn from one another and support you on your road to sobriety. Most importantly, listen to your mind and your body. If something works for you and benefits your recovery- keep it up. No one knows you better than you do.
Not everyone going to rehab is looking to get sober. People go for all different reasons- a lot of times against their will. You will likely meet someone who isn’t afraid to say this is their umpteenth time in treatment and will likely be back again. On the one hand, it’s a good thing that they are (maybe) trying to better their lives. On the other, clearly, what they’re doing isn’t working. This kind of person isn’t always a self-sabotager, but they sure can be. If you’re serious about getting your life on track, avoid people who couldn’t care less. You need like-minded friends with similar goals, and someone who pops in and out of rehab like a convenience store isn’t going to do you any good. If they don’t care about their health and sobriety, don’t pay any mind to a relationship with them.
When in Doubt, Ask These Questions
Not sure if someone falls under these five categories? Maybe they don’t, but still seem to be a bad influence.If you’re unsure about a friendship, that’s a red flag already. But when in doubt, ask yourself these questions. If the answer to any is yes, it might be time to them loose.
- Do I have a hard time trusting this person?
- Does this person make me question myself and my decisions?
- Do I have to keep secrets from this person?
- Does this person criticize me?
- Do I like myself less when I’m around this person?
- Do other people warn me about this person?
- Is it hard to be myself around this person?
- Is this person slowing down my personal growth?
Recovery Is Possible
If you or a loved one is seeking sobriety, take the first step to creating a happy and healthy life. With help from the professionals at Elevations Health, you can find a new life in sobriety with the least amount of resistance possible. So call us today at 1-866-200-3224 and begin your journey to recovery the right way, with Elevation Health.