Living with someone in sobriety can be an amazing experience, especially if you spent years living with them in active addiction. You no longer have to worry about what state you will find them in when you come home, and you will no longer have to hide your money for fear that it may go missing. The constant pressure of addiction will be gone and with its removal, a new energy will fall upon the house as healing takes place and the addict or alcoholic changes.
However, this process can take awhile to occur because even though the person you are living with is now sober, there may still be resentments to work through and a variety of emotional damages that need to be worked out. The peace and security that can come with living with someone in sobriety is a process that unfolds over time and although this process works at its own pace, there are certain things that you can do in order to support the person that you are living with in their sobriety.
That is what we are going to be taking a look at today, 10 things that you can do when living with someone in sobriety in order to support them on their journey. While some of these items may not be applicable to your situation, hopefully, some of the suggestions can help you make the transition from living with an addict to living with a sober individual.
10 Ways to Support Living with Someone in Sobriety
Don’t Bring Alcohol or Drugs into the House
When living with someone in sobriety, especially in the beginning, it is best to not have alcohol or drugs in the home. The reason for this is fairly clear, as in the beginning of someone’s sobriety they are susceptible to cravings and compulsions to use that they cannot control. By not having substances in the house, you create a safe environment for them to stay sober in and help them accomplish their goal of long-term recovery.
Give Them Space to Attend Meetings
It is sometimes difficult when living with someone in sobriety because they will have a fairly active social life that includes many recovery related events. It is important to allow them to attend these things and to not make them feel guilty for how much time they spend on their recovery.
Hold Them Accountable
Just because someone is sober does not mean that they are off the hook for the rest of the responsibilities in their life. Make sure, and not in a nagging way, that they are keeping up with the things they need to do, whether that be chores around the house or any other obligations they may have.
Join in Their Spiritual Practice
Many people who enter into sobriety start to believe in something greater than themselves and many begin to create a spiritual practice for themselves. It is a good idea, if both of you are comfortable with it, to join in that spiritual practice so that you can better understand and better support the individual you are living with.
Listen and Try to be Supportive
In the beginning of recovery, it is imperative that the newly sober individual talks to people they can trust. Often times this may just mean that they need to vent or expose their thoughts, and you can support them by listening and being there for them.
Don’t Hover Over Them
This is especially true if you lived with the alcoholic or addict during their active addiction. Now that they are sober you probably still have some misgivings and some trust issues with them and this is totally understandable, but it is important that you do not hover over them too much, or pry into their day-to-day life. Allow them to work their program and in time their actions will speak for themselves.
Go to Al-Anon Meetings
If you are particularly close with the sober person you are living with, for instance if it is a sibling, spouse, parent, or significant other, then you may want to check out an Al-Anon meeting, so that you can not only overcome any issues you may have experienced during their active addiction, but also so that you can support your loved one in their new found sobriety.
Encourage Them to Get out of the House
If you find that the sober person you are living with is isolating and spending too much time inside, then encourage them to get out of the house and do something fun. Many times alcoholics and addicts will isolate if they are feeling guilty, depressed, or resentful, and usually, the best way to break this cycle is to get out of the house and do something to take your mind off the problem.
Be Supportive of Their New Friends
Many times people who are new to recovery will make a whole new set of friends who are sober as well. While it may seem strange at first to see a new group of people, it is important to be supportive of these new friends, as they will help the newly sober person stay on the beam and continue with their recovery.
Have Coffee in the House
This may sound like nothing, but to many people in recovery, coffee is like the nectar of the gods. Be sure to have coffee in the house, even if you don’t drink it.
Seeking Treatment for Alcoholism or Addiction
Getting clean and sober from drugs and alcohol is the most important thing that an addict or alcoholic can do in their life. It is also the most anxiety producing and frightening thing that they can do in their life, but it doesn’t need to be. With help from the professionals at Elevations Health, you can find a new life in sobriety with the least amount of resistance possible. So call us today at 1-866-200-3224 and begin your journey to recovery the right way, with Elevation Health.