Many people come into sobriety lacking any true sense of themselves or the ability to express humility. To them, humility is a negative thing that should never be shown—it is viewed as a weakness that must be avoided at all costs; otherwise the world will eat you up and spit you out.
Once sober, however, they begin to understand that humility, or being humble in sobriety, is the way to experience peace in their life, and the way to finally overcome their issues with addiction and alcoholism. They begin to understand that all of the spiritual teachings calling for humility were, in fact, correct and that even though the world has told them for most of their life to never show humility, it is, in fact, the key to their freedom.
It is interesting though because being humble in sobriety is not necessarily something that an individual chooses to do. In fact, many times the humility that leads to change comes from pain or repeated failure. Take for instance, the initial humility that is received during early recovery. This ability to be humble in sobriety is usually brought on by the complete crushing of the ego and the admitting of defeat that comes with asking for help. It was not really acquired through any conscious thought by the individual, but rather was brought about the crushing blow of alcoholism or addiction, and life itself.
Very often you will find that humility is not something that can be directly sought after. It can be acquired through discipline of thought and action, but even then it can be difficult to maintain and even more difficult to live in.
So let’s take a look at some ways that you can attempt to be humble in sobriety. While each individual is different and what they will need in order to be humble will differ as well, the general theme and general idea are the same.
What is Humility?
The word humility is often times confused and many people believe that in order to be humble in sobriety they have to give up all material possessions and become a monk in a monastery. They think that being humble means a complete denial of self, but the truth could not be further from this.
Humility is simply a recognition of where you are currently at in your life, with an understanding of where you want to go and where you have been. Those who have humility have a good grasp on who they are as a person and do not feel the need to bend the truth about their current situation in order to make themselves feel better or make themselves look better.
Often times a person who is considered humble in sobriety will be honest and truthful to the best of their ability. This does not mean that they display perfect honesty, as this is almost impossible, but they do attempt to be honest and seek the truth in everything they do.
How to be Humble in Sobriety
The first, and really only requirement, for being humble in sobriety is an accurate self-appraisal, meaning an understanding of where you currently stand in life, without the alcoholic or addict grandiosity that many of us suffer from. This does not mean a wanton disregard for any character defects you may have or disregarding the need for growth, but rather it just means accepting where you currently are at, as you continue to seek improvement in your life.
Many times, those who lack humility will find it difficult to admit their faults or admit they are wrong, and this stems from their inability to accept themselves for who they currently are. In recovery, this is dangerous because failure to understand your part in a situation could possibly lead back to a drink or a drug. Why this is, I cannot say for certain, but it has something to do with the level of self-honesty necessary to stay sober.
One of the best ways to achieve an honest and accurate self-appraisal is through the working of the 4th and 5th Steps. These Steps are designed to help the individual discover who they are, what they have done, and where they need to improve. When done diligently and honestly, these Steps are tremendously illuminating and many times lead to the desired humility.
However, over time you may find that your ability to see yourself waivers, and the as the ego begins to rebuild, you begin to construct realities around yourself that may not be accurate. This is where a good support network, and a 10th and 11th Step come in. Through these things, you will be able to check yourself and get back on the path of humility that you need.
It is also important to note that helping others and getting out of yourself is one of the best ways to stay humble in sobriety. Through the act of giving of yourself, you will find that you have a greater appreciation for the things you have and do not have, and a better understanding of yourself in relation to the world. When you seek to help others, you allow humility into your life, because you set aside your goals and desires for a bit and put others above yourself.
Seeking Treatment for Alcoholism or Addiction
Getting clean and sober from drugs and alcohol is the most important thing that an addict or alcoholic can do in their life. It is also the most anxiety producing and frightening thing that they can do in their life, but it doesn’t need to be. With help from the professionals at Elevations Health, you can find a new life in sobriety with the least amount of resistance possible. So call us today at 1-866-200-3224 and begin your journey to recovery the right way, with Elevation Health.