At some point or another, we all take a step back and analyze our motives in some form or another. Sitting back and reflecting on some of our more questionable decisions made, or acting on something we have committed to internally, we tell ourselves that whatever the poison chosen- our actions decided upon are okay to follow through with. We- and when I say we, yes I do mean you and I. WE are all human beings that make ghastly mistakes on a regular basis. We deal with the aftermath of a situation accordingly but most of our questionable choices are downsized in our heads. C’mon, we are all guilty in a position at some point where we minimalize our dealings at some point or another.
What is Self-Justification Exactly?
Have you ever spent too much of your hard earned money in one quick sitting, knowing that you shouldn’t? Or told yourself that you would or wouldn’t do something specifically, and then you just went and ripped up that mental contract into pieces? Almost like kind of disregarding your gut feeling with things. In all reality, we tend to justify our actions mostly when they end up teasing our own personal belief system with some fashion of negativity. A feeling that collides with our original intended goal, then the brain goes into battle.
One of the biggest things in this life that is a gift and a curse is the power of choice. Everything we do is a product of some form of resolution, minus involuntary actions like breathing. So when internal conflict arises inside, we pick a side. Yet so many outside social factors affect our direction we head in. It is generally safe to say that most people do not like negativity. Most struggle to admit when they are wrong and don’t like to accept responsibility with downbeat connotations attached. People often get most offended about the things they believe they know best.
The reality of it is that, in a very cynical perspective, mistakes are required. Life is but a collection of mistakes and learning and budding from them hopefully, (or not). In the meantime, we continually do things we are not always proud of and have to second guess from time to time. Don’t beat yourself up though; it’s all necessary in some form or another for mental growth. However, trying to find a balance is the key to such stages of wisdom. When your different sided beliefs clash, it can be uncomfortable. Therefore, our minds tell us to side one way or another to relieve this. I can’t even begin to explain how many times I’ve told myself I wouldn’t devour an entire jar of peanut butter in one sitting, moments later coming to with an empty jar and hands covered in nutty goodness and shame. Something inside my dull cranium usually tells me “Just worry about it later”.
Playing mind games and convincing ourselves of a particular reality that is often exaggerated, distorted, or ignored. We want to believe what we want to believe but must keep in mind that OUR voice is not THE voice.
Ripping Open the Cycle of Justification
As with any predicament that occurs in life, it’s about laying out the facts and finding a solution. Most scenarios that we find problems with are self-created. We produce the different perspectives, opinions, and everyday understandings and keep moving forward based off of the positive and negative experiences lived through. This creates the imaginary need that we must minimalize certain measures for an intended outcome. Simple right? Or so it seems. It really can be a matter of committing to self-awarenesss. Taking the time to do that little bit of introspection and discovering the way we tick is crucial. In this life, you know yourself better than anybody else is ever going to. So figuring certain attributes of ourselves is vital. Decide whether deep down you want to keep smoking pack after pack and why you haven’t finally quit altogether. Or maybe take a look at why you don’t like the size of your body but are unwilling to change your diet or even attempt to exercise. These are prime examples of justification at its finest. The key to taking this step back is asking “why’. Why is it I like this particular item? Why do I continually allow myself to keep doing this? Why am I allowing this?
See the pattern above? These are questions that take pondering and self-evaluation, but instead, most enjoy the quickest satisfactory route which is as I mentioned earlier is a forte of mine. Look at life as it comes to you, and not only after it’s passed.
Whether we like it or not, we are adapt creatures that rule with emotion. Emotion is tricky because not only does it rule over our gray matter in the attic, but emotion is a thought process that can be felt physically. It is important when boiling down to big decisions that we keep our personal belief system and emotions separate to the best of our ability. All it takes is one good mood swing and all our certainties and principles go right down the drain. Hold onto those morals, and if that’s a too tough- find somebody to help hold you accountable.
Don’t Excuse Your Drug or Alcohol Dependency
We all live different lives and encounter all sorts of experiences that end up getting justified in one manner or another. In many situations with rationalizing, our minds are screaming one thing while our actions are only showing that of another. Don’t try and convince yourself that your addiction “might” work out in your favor. It’s a justification that’s just not worth the troubled territory. Call 866-200-3224 to learn more about treatment opportunities in the area for you. If you’re debating to extend out for help, don’t hesitate to reach out to one of our supportive specialists and learn more about addiction or justifications at www.elevationshealth.com. We are here to help implement confidence in your daily routine.